Just When DO Mothers Become Abusive?HermioneStranger7/27/13 7:22pmFiled to: Mothersabuse48047EditPromoteShare to KinjaGo to permalinkMothers get shit on a LOT, as documented in basically every article on mothering by Jezebel. As a result of this, there seems to be a general feminist party line saying “look, moms, you’re trying your hardest, so just don’t be afraid to do something for you sometimes, and people who tell you that you’re abusive are full of crap. And obviously, don’t be ACTUALLY abusive or negligent, but instead let’s talk about all the things that aren’t abusive.” I really struggle with this, because my mom was a martrying, stay-at-home-mom whose entire personality revolved around being a wife and mother. She was also severely emotionally (rarely physically) abusive and negligent. Without clarifying when, exactly, mothers cross over into abuse and negligence, I worry that feminists (with their movement against domestic violence) would end up siding with my mother, not with me. So where do mothers cross the line?